A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM

Bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism combined into one abbreviation, are considered ambiguous sexual practices – not so much because of the reputation of cruel and dangerous hobbies, but because of ethical issues embedded in the very idea of ??domination and subordination. For our part, we believe in the idea of deliberate choice, especially when it comes to experiments with the sensitivity of the body, and not the psyche – all the more so that the main rules in BDSM are safety, rationality and voluntariness.

However, these rules do not guarantee security in bad or inexperienced hands. Do not try to repeat at home peeped in thematic porn or subtracted in public, full of inflamed fantasies of pain and trials that cause keen pleasure. Better use a practical guide to sexual activities that are perfectly safe for physical and psychological health, will not scare almost anyone and discover something new. If you already know about the penis plugs offered by lustplugs, then you can easily incorporate it with the options of BDSM and fetishes below.

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Hand binding

The easiest way to enhance sensations is to limit access to some of them. Those who remain are immediately perceived much more acutely. It is enough to tie your partner’s hands behind your head so that he cannot touch you – and everything that you will do next will seem enchanting. The main mistakes when linking: the wrong choice of improvised means and too much tightening or loss of sensation in the hands, which may not go for weeks. Leave enough clearance under the improvised fetters – at least one finger thick; never leave a connected partner alone in a room; keep the scissors in a prominent place in order to quickly release if necessary. If you feel sorry for ties and ribbons, buy a special vinyl tape, it is glued only to itself and never to the body.

Foot fetish

Lasky feet are often associated with humiliation, although it is exciting and very erotic practice that both men and women like, because the skin on the legs is very tender, almost always covered and rarely stimulated. So for many, the sensitivity of the legs is a surprise. Foot fetish is more often used in the framework of foreplay, but nothing prevents to combine, and with a certain perseverance of his one is enough to bring a woman to orgasm. What do with the feet? Lick, kiss, suck fingers, and in rough places bite and scratch. Do I need to somehow get ready? It is enough to wash the feet, they are less likely to fall into suspicious places than the hands. Where to begin? With a foot massage, then add foot-fetish elements and watch the partner’s reaction.

Temperature games

The change of temperature perfectly diversifies the sensations, especially if the partner’s eyes are blindfolded and he does not know what awaits him. It is more efficient and safer to emphasize the temperature difference rather than looking for something very hot or too cold. For example, take a warm device with cold water inside or take a massage with a hot device after blowing cold air into a warm bathroom. The most popular and at the same time budgetary means are still ice cubes. If you use them on the mucous membranes, first wash with warm water, otherwise you risk to repeat the children’s focus “lick swings in winter”.

Spanking

Voiced to palm on someone else’s ass there are many lovers, only it hurts more than exciting. How to slap to partner wound up? There are three main rules. First: warm up first. The first flip flops should be soft and almost stroking, with a flat palm, over a large area. Strengthen shocks and concentrate on the same places only when the skin turns red. Second: keep the rhythm. Rhythmic sounds and influences are driven into a light trance (remember, under what you usually dance), this is a decent part of the fun. Third: when it is all over, spread the long-suffering buttocks with pantheon, so that the skin recovers faster in case of micro traumas.

Tickling

Some cause acute excitement, others have a nervous laugh, and some have both, and more. How to tickle? Fingertips, brushes and brushes made from natural fibers. There are even special tickle brushes, usually made from feathers- and some even manage to masturbate with feathers. Where to tickle? Where you like partner. The study of the body begins with the most obvious places: the feet, the inner surface of the forearm, the neck and the back of the head. But any zones can be sensitive, try to use places that are rarely touched in everyday life, for example, the front surface of the thighs and ankles. Make sure you agree on a stop word – it’s not always clear, your victim really wants to stop, or his rushing is so great.

Role-playing games

A nice nurse in the back room or a doctor who offered to undress completely because it is a matter of life and death? You choose. Role-playing games allow you to fool around, for this purpose they are invented, but the game of a doctor from childhood is almost always erotically colored. Medical examinations in BDSM are a reason to make the lower one feel helpless, shame remember the gynecologist’s chair and fear the dentist’s chair!. For us, in the adapted version, this is an opportunity to walk once more on the body of a partner or to substitute his own. Strategic points in traditional sex do not leave the flight for the imagination, but you can almost endlessly engage the body. Slapping, stroking, questions about the state of health and requests to bend down or reach out will wake up the fantasy and give ideas on what to do next.

Clothespins

The clothespins worn on the body make it a little painful, and then it depends on the individual sensitivity. One is pleased to add this mild pain to sexual experiences, the other bars from the powerful release of endorphins after removing the pegs naturally “buy a goat, sell a goat”. Many take the usual laundry – plastic or wood – but make sure that the edges are smooth and without sharp teeth, and the springs in the center are firmly fixed. This is especially important for those who remove the clothespins from the body with a sharp movement (it increases the pleasure), so you can buy specialized – they have round safe edges. Clothespins put on themselves, partner, you can use yourself during masturbation (and understand whether you need it at all), two or four to start enough. The most sensitive places for clothes pegs in women are the nipples and labia, but options are possible. If you are wearing on the labia, forget about the sharp pull-off and make sure that only your clothespins and no one else uses them and will not bring you any infection.

Electric stove

Games with electricity only sound harsh, but remember your feelings from darsonval skin treatment – at the devices for electro-sex current strength is similar. Moreover, they are in principle not able to shake properly, so do not meddle inside with a soldering iron and just enjoy the process. For elektroseksa there are many legally distributed devices: these are dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, just electrodes that attach to the skin, and other devices that send weak electrical discharges to the right places. Muscles contract, orgasm gets closer. If the electricity gets bored, most toys just turn off and use as usual. Not to worry, first try the device on the crook of the elbow. Increase the intensity of the discharges gradually, starting with the weakest, until you find the most suitable option, and observe gradualness every time – the sensitivity is different on different days of the cycle.